Anonymous asked: is it hard to get above a 3.0 at JMU. I'm pretty sure it varies among classes but is it heard of?
In all honesty, it depends on how much of a priority your work is and how many credits you take at once. I know plenty of people who have earned GPAs greater than 3.0- it’s possible! However, they put in a lot of intentional work and effort. I would recommend only taking a normal 15ish credit course-load for your very first semester; that way, you can get used to the work and not feel so stretched between classes in a giant course load (I’m taking 19 right now, for example.) The academic rigor here can be tough, but with a little time management and some hard work, you can totally do it!! :)
benzell asked: ayy its been too long since ive heard from you so i thought i should check in
Hey!! Oh my goodness, it’s been too long. I’ve been well for the most part- relieved my semester is over and I have a break. School/life has been stressful, but I’ve just been watching movies and reading since I’ve been home. Relaxing things, you know. I needed it. How have you been?
Last night I actually read some of the affirmations my small group kids wrote me in the summer. I would be lying if I said I didn’t shed a tear or two. I am super missing some Craig Springs shenanigans!!
Anonymous asked: Who the hell plays the digeridoo??
I DON’T. KNOW. I’m just as clueless as you are. But there are pictures of him playing it, so rest assured it’s the truth. I couldn’t make this stuff up if I tried.
codycat-likes-to-copycat asked: Holy fuck excuse my language but your blog just motivated the shit outta me! -instant follow-
Wow! Why, thank you very much!! It’s my little ray of sunshine :)
Anonymous asked: I'm a freshman at JMU lol wicked creepy that I found you but I searched the JMU tag once and you came up haha. BUT I'm super homesick tonight. Advice from another duke on how to deal?
Not creepy at all! We’re all family here :) First thing I’d recommend when dealing with homesickness is: Don’t isolate yourself. I know you may feel cruddy while missing your family, but keep yourself occupied. Go to dinner or lunch dates with your friends. Go play racquet ball at UREC with a friend. Heck, call your mom, your brother, your grandpa! Anyone. Just keep the communication open and going.
Second, switch up the routine a little bit or give yourself something to look forward to. It’s easy to get into that school rut. Allow yourself time to go do something different or try something new. Don’t have time? Make. Time. You won’t regret it. There’s always something going on here. Check the table tents!
Third, be positive! Yes, you are in a new place and maybe you’re still trying to adjust to life here, but tell yourself that you WILL find your niche. (Because… you WILL! It might take some time, but it’s here and waiting for you. Promise.) Putting a positive spin on things will hopefully help lighten your load.
There isn’t a quick-fix to homesickness, but I, for one, am so glad you are here at JMU. There is so much waiting for you here. Take some deep breaths and remind yourself that you are so loved and no amount of distance could ever change that. Hope this helps!
Anonymous asked: I think you're beautiful
And I think you just made my day. You are too sweet. Thank you. xoxo
justyouraverageteenagerrr asked: I loveee your theme! where did you get it??
Thank you!! Really, it’s just a modified version of LightWeight on the free Tumblr themes. Nothing special. I just wanted something simple, so I edited a bit of the html and made it my own :)
Anonymous asked: I think we are exactly the same, I am ALWAYS there for the people I care about. I always wish I had a friend as good as me. If only I could be my own friend so I'm not disappointed. I think I care about others so much because it means I don't have to think about myself, and figure out my own feelings. By figuring out other people's feelings, I get to run away from my own.
Confronting your own feelings is not easy. Take it from someone who has been stuffing hers away for years. However, it’s not healthy. Your feelings matter just as much. You deserve to be heard. You deserve to be cared for.
I’ve found that it actually works best if you let your friends you trust know how and when they can be there for you. As much as I wish they could, our friends can’t read our minds. Sometimes they don’t know they are hurting us or giving us the exact opposite of what we need. But I bet if they knew, they would do anything for you.
Anonymous asked: How do you put your own feelings aside and help other people? Doesn't it all get to be too much? Idk. When friends come crying to me about boyfriends and stupid drama (that shouldn't be happening because we're in college for goodness sake) i'm jealous that that's all they have to worry about. Of course I sit there and listen and say the right things. But I feel emotionally exhausted afterword. Am I wrong by taking care of them before myself?
Honestly, there is no right or wrong answer to this question. It is exhausting to put yourself before others all the time. I put my feelings aside and help other people because that is what I feel is most important; it’s a life choice I’ve made: to sustain the exhaustion for the peace and satisfaction it gives me to help other people. Now, are there times when I really should be looking out for myself, instead? YES. I have a tendency to go above and beyond, and if you are anything like me, I can get bogged down by it.
It’s so completely important to remember that both you and I deserve to be happy just as much as everyone else does. We are worth happiness, love, health, and all the other good things. If you feel you need a break, don’t feel bad in taking one! That is a lesson I need to learn, as well. Saying no sometimes is okay. You need to look out for yourself, too :)
Anonymous asked: YOU'RE IT! Rules are: copy this message to 10 other beautiful people/blogs who you think deserve this message! keep the game going and make everyone feel beautiful.
Aw, thank you! Whoever you are, I’m sure you are just as beautiful, if not more. xoxo
nostalgicjoy asked: BEAUTIFUL PERSON AWARD!!! Once you are given this award, you are supposed to paste it in the ask of 8 people who deserve it. If you break the chain nothing will happen, but it’s sweet to know someone thinks your beautiful inside and out. <3
Aw, thank you! You’re lovely :)
Anonymous asked: Your text post made me smile, sweetie :) That's amazing. YOU'RE amazing. Stay strong, beautiful <3
Thank you for making ME smile and for making my day! I’m not that amazing. Just trying to take joy in the little things in life :) Much love!
Anonymous asked: uh hey. i'm the anon from a few days ago, with the 9 crazy ass messages.. i'd just like to tell you that you saved my life. thank you so much. you're incredible.
Thank you. You are SO, so very welcome. I incredibly happy to hear that you are doing better! Also, I am proud of you for facing what you are facing- I think that makes you very brave. Keep fighting and know that you deserve everything wonderful, because that’s what you are. I will always be here for you. And I meant it when I said I wanted to be here for you in any way I possibly could. xoxo